Our Minds have the Capacity to Get Excited and Impulsive about Many Ideas All at the Same Time

Our minds have the amazing ability to want and think about a variety of different ideas and want all at once.

This can be a gift and a curse.

In one respect it is amazing that we have the capacity to dream and think up so many things. On the other hand, it can be a curse because we can -on a minute-to-minute basis- get excited about and impulsive about all of the things that we want to do and create.

The Curse of New Ideas and Opportunities

It is completely normal to want to be good at all things. We have a lot of new interests and hope to be good at all of them. We want to look and be fit at the same time, as we want to try the new pizza restaurant that our friends have been raving about.

We at the same time want to excel at our career and have great relationships!!

Why wouldn’t we want all of that?

The flip side of all those awesome ideas coming at us is that they can also be a curse. It is impossible, I have found, to act on all of them and see success in any given area.

Why Finding Focus and Saying No to Other Things will get you Fit the Fastest.

A good way to think about this is if you had to get fit or write a book as though your or someone in your family’s life depended on it. How would you go about doing that?

You would more then likely drop everything and focus. Logically you know that it would have to take precedence over all other things.

You would spend a majority of your time writing or working out—eating clean first in spite of your other interests.

It would require priority and focus.

I remember when I did my first bodybuilding show. It became my life.

I had 16 weeks to lean my body out and step on that stage.

I was petrified that I would look like a fool and fall on my face if I did not prioritize and learn the sport.

I immediately made the strength training and cardio workouts top priority.

I scheduled an early morning time that would not conflict with anything in my schedule.

I prepped my food for the week on Sundays for 2 hours.

Posing was done nightly instead of any TV watching.

It became my everything.

I said NO to restaurant dates and brought my own food to family gatherings.

My Easter dinner consisted of chicken and broccoli while everyone else had ham and jellybeans. I kept a thorough food and water journal. It was my daily bible so much so that my husband started writing love notes to me in there.

In the end, I became a first place winner. Focus on one thing and say NO to others will get you there.


How to Focus on that One Thing That You Want to Find Success with Your Fitness Goals

Here are some strategies to find focus:

  1. Prioritize
  2. Take the time to dream.
  3. Find out what your hearts desire truly is.
  4. If it is being tight—toned, & lean then make it a priority.
  5.  Make a schedule of non-negotiable time at home, work, and with family to start working on it with focus.
  6. Say No to anything that does not back up that goal of being fit and toned.
  7. Beware of Idle things.
  8. Be aware of desires that are in the moment and sound good but do not align with the goal.
  9. Get Uncomfortable.
  10. You will have to say NO to comfortable things that everyone else is doing.
  11. It will feel uncomfortable to give up sleep, TV. Restaurants, and fun!
  12. Stay Positive and count your small successes along the way.
  13. Keep a positive mindset.
  14. Look at the small daily successes. For example, celebrate that you prepped your food, drank a gallon of water that day, or gave it 100% in your workout when you were not feeling it.


The times in my life that I achieved the most world -changing things with my life I didn’t do so by dividing my focus and intent. I aimed high, got serious, and said no to all the other opportunities that life presented that weren’t in alignment with my goals.


If you want the power to follow your dreams, you say no. It’s not easy, but if it’s what you want – welcome the challenge.



I am a passionate mom of 5, author, motivational speaker, and a business owner. My passion is in helping people find their more authentic self. If you would like to connect on a strategy call send me a message at andreya@tone2day.com


Learn to Say No and Achieve Fitness Success